I explained using an example from my book, "Dying Happy: The Gift of Choice."
I chose to care for my mother when she was dying. A lot of people go into caring for someone putting the person who is dying or ill first, and themselves second.
When I chose to take this on, I was very up front, I asked myself, "If I am going to do this, I am choosing for me. How is this going to work for me? What do I need to be aware of and what do I need to choose?"
That was really a kindness for me. Making sure that I am choosing this for myself - not for my family, siblings, parents or anyone else.
That one simple choice right up front was a kindness as then I could do what I had to do and be there for my mother completely without getting tired or exhausted.
When you are living for the should, must, have to, it can get very exhausting. But if you are willing to choose for you, you become the leader and are able to choose, communicate and delegate what you need to so that it works for you and all elements are still taken care of.
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