Sometimes a sudden and unexpected loss can really ‘side-swipe’ us. Whether you are made redundant in a job, lose money, your house or assets, a relationship ends, you lose a loved one (person or animal), or are diagnosed with a serious health condition, a seemingly overwhelming sense of shock and grief can occur. In that moment, we can make a whole gamut of decisions, judgements, and conclusions of what it’s all going to be like from that point forward. Grief will settle in and linger when we are intent on focussing on the loss, and mourning over the future we thought we were going to have, that now has changed.
What if you can acknowledge that life is not going to be exactly as you decided it was going to be? But, does that mean it has to be worse from now on? Or can it just be different?
People who deal more easily with unexpected grief are those who have gratitude for everything that shows up in their lives, not matter how long it stays. Of course you didn’t wish to lose what you cherished and cared for. Of course it sucks, beyond sucks. It’s ok to acknowledge that right now it's hard. It’s ok to be sad, angry, shocked and confused.
And, you don’t have to lose yourself in any of those emotions either. What if you could allow yourself to have whatever comes up, fully indulge in it, but know that you don’t have to choose it for more than 10 minutes at a time? You always have a choice.
What if you can be grateful for what was, sad for the loss, and at the same time wake up in the morning and know that you, in this moment are alive? What if you can miss someone or something and still know there is a beautiful planet out there, and things and people that you enjoy. Yes, life is going to be different now. Your future is more of a mystery than you once assumed it would be.
So now, what else is possible? Could you allow yourself to just be and do what you need to be and do right now?
And, what if unexpected Grief was not necessarily the end, but could actually open you up to a whole different array of possibilities and choices that you wouldn’t have otherwise seen?
What if you can acknowledge that life is not going to be exactly as you decided it was going to be? But, does that mean it has to be worse from now on? Or can it just be different?
People who deal more easily with unexpected grief are those who have gratitude for everything that shows up in their lives, not matter how long it stays. Of course you didn’t wish to lose what you cherished and cared for. Of course it sucks, beyond sucks. It’s ok to acknowledge that right now it's hard. It’s ok to be sad, angry, shocked and confused.
And, you don’t have to lose yourself in any of those emotions either. What if you could allow yourself to have whatever comes up, fully indulge in it, but know that you don’t have to choose it for more than 10 minutes at a time? You always have a choice.
What if you can be grateful for what was, sad for the loss, and at the same time wake up in the morning and know that you, in this moment are alive? What if you can miss someone or something and still know there is a beautiful planet out there, and things and people that you enjoy. Yes, life is going to be different now. Your future is more of a mystery than you once assumed it would be.
So now, what else is possible? Could you allow yourself to just be and do what you need to be and do right now?
And, what if unexpected Grief was not necessarily the end, but could actually open you up to a whole different array of possibilities and choices that you wouldn’t have otherwise seen?
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