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What's Right About You?

18/8/2015

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Haven’t you ever wondered how it’s interesting that other people can see our talents and capacities long before we do?  When I ask people “Would you be really willing to acknowledge that is so brilliant about you?” they are often unable to - because they have never seen it before, or they have seen it as a wrongness or a weakness, when actually it can be their strongness.

If this is you, a great question to start asking is:  “What’s right about me I’m not getting?” and see what else can show up. 

I have a friend whose family always called her over-sensitive.  What she discovered through Access Consciousness® was that she wasn’t over-sensitive, she was just really, really, really aware.  And the difference between those two things is enormous.  She didn’t’ have to judge what she thought was a problem about her, and could see instead that it was actually a huge capacity!

She went from thinking “Everything I am and do is wrong,” to going  “Oh! I’m just aware.  Oh, they’re being mean again. I’m just aware of it.”  She developed the capacity to be in acknowledgement of who she is, rather than judging herself as wrong for every single thing that showed up that other people didn’t agree with or like about her.

There’s an energy of contribution available when you receive who and what you are.  For example, you are reading this because I am willing to acknowledge what I did differently with my parents dying and with other people who have experienced life-threatening illnesses, that was more ease-filled, peaceful, joyful and gratitude-filled than many other people had experienced.

If I judged myself for being different, I would not be talking about these possibilities publicly.  By being willing to acknowledge how different I am, and that there was no wrongness, it’s just a different choice, I have been able to create a space and an invitation for other people to choose something different too.  If I hadn’t been willing to acknowledge that I am different, and that what I have to offer is a gift, those other possibilities might still not exist.  If you are judging you, you can’t see the gift that you are that contributes to the world, and you will not let the contribution you can be exist out there, where it is required and desired!

There’s so much more expansion in being willing to acknowledge you.  It opens up so many doors and different possibilities for you to tap into and explore.  It gives you a space to actually be you, and to enjoy being you!  It also is a huge invitation for people to be themselves too.

What if, for every time you thought you were wrong, you asked “What’s right about me I am not getting?” instead and see what else could show up in your life that might be fun for you?


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"Are You Asking Why?"

10/8/2015

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It is common trap we can set for ourselves with asking ‘why?’, when something challenging shows up in life:  “Why me?” “Why did this happen?”, “Why did this happen to such a good person?”, “It’s not fair... why isn’t this different?”
 
Why is it a trap?  The problem with a question like ‘Why’, is you are looking for a way to figure out the reason or the justification for what has occurred, as if understanding it will make it all okay. But it won’t.  “Why” keeps you looking backwards and takes you further down the rabbit hole until you are so tied up in knots that you can’t see a different possibility.

A true question invites information and possibilities into your world.  A question gives you space and a sense of freedom.  Asking why never gives you space, it takes you round and round in ever shrinking circles. 

What if, instead of trying to understand stuff, you start acknowledging what is? Instead of going “why did this person choose this?” or “why is this person doing that?”, stop trying to figure it all out and go:  “Okay this is what’s going on.” 

Have you noticed that mostly you can never figure out the reason why because most times there is no “why” that ever makes sense?  Why would you keep on looking for something that doesn’t exist?  Can you make sense of an insane world?  No, you can’t.  But you can acknowledge what is happening, not judge it as right or wrong,  and ask a different question, like “What else is possible that I haven’t considered?”

With acknowledgment, you don’t have to try and make sense of anything, you don’t have to judge you or anyone else for the choices that have been made in the past or that are being made now.

It just is, and you can choose to move forward.  If you gave up trapping yourself with ‘why?’, what else would be possible to acknowledge, to be, and to choose?


 



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    Wendy Mulder is an Access Consciousness® Facilitator, a Registered Nurse and Grief Therapist.  She is the author of 'Learning From Grief'.

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