This is a very different point of view about grief, and yet, this idea offers one way out of being stuck in the solidity, the intensity and density of the thoughts, feelings and emotions we buy as real.
Our thoughts, feelings and emotions are not real. How many thoughts, feelings and emotions have we bought as ours? How aware are we? And how much of a psychic sponge are we that we pick up everyone’s thoughts, feeling and emotions and buy it as ours?
So what if that grief, that emotion that you are having around grief is actually not even yours? And what if you are just actually picking it up from everybody all around you, where they have picked it up from everybody all around them and bought it. You know that place we go to of “I’m doing it because this is what everyone else is doing. If everyone else is doing it, it must be real.”
This has gone on for centuries. And what if now is the time to change our points of view about what grief truly is? So if grief is not real, what do you do with that emotion or feeling that seems like grief?
What most people do with it, is they make it really significant and it feels very heavy. If something is really light for you, it’s true, and if something is heavy, then it’s not true for you. So take the energy of grief that you have right now - is it light or heavy?
We’ve bought the idea if we have a feeling or an emotion and its heavy; “Well, oh my goodness, right, there’s that feeling and there’s that emotion and it’s really destroying me and it must be real.”
I know that it is possible to actually move past that. I know it is possible that you can have separations or you can have someone die, or you can have an animal die or you can lose your job or you can lose your money and if you actually don’t go into the significance and heaviness of it, and it’s just like; “Wow! What else is possible here?” then you can move beyond the grief.
Asking questions is a great way to shift the energy of grief. When you ask: “Who does all this belong to?” and return to sender everything that is not yours, you may notice the energy around your situation getting lighter.
Or you can ask: “Is this light for me?” Because if it’s light, it’s true for you. If the grief or a situation is really heavy and it’s impacting on your body with aches and pains ask: “Is this really how it’s supposed to be?” You could just go; “Is this light? No. Who does this belong to?” Or “What else could I choose here?”
Or if you are going down the rabbit hole into sadness and depression, go talk to someone. Ask the question – Who could I talk to? Who could I speak to who could assist me to get me out of this?